NO U – TURNS

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In our travels through this huge blogosphere recently, the mouse and I happened upon another blog, of course. However, this was no ordinary blog. We have read some others that write posts within the same category: Dying. We will be very honest here. We tend to read them very occasionally because they are often written by people who are dying. This is reading which is best done in moderation, at least for us. We are sensitive types who tend to ponder too deeply at times. This creates the problem of trying to remain ‘uplifted’ and ‘positive’ when we have known susceptibility to periodic bouts of real depression.

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Now that you know one of our not-so-shiny qualities, you will understand how incredibly difficult we found it at times, to get through this particular writer’s personal story, without cracking out the Kleenex and having us a good cry between some of the posts…

Why are we bringing such a blog to your attention today? Because, it’s a story about not one, but 2 dying people. That’s the first thing that made it so compelling to read, all at once, in one sitting. A married couple dying, at the same time. And while this is not the story of the famous Rosenbergs, it seemed to us these people were indeed…executed. If you visit this blog, you will learn “how.”

On the opening post of this blog is a statement the wife writes:

“We think that dying should be an event of love, grace, and dignity.  But, it surely isn’t that for most people.

When my husband and I found out that we had entered this reality of dying (and oddly at the same time with the same condition), we wanted to find a place to express ourselves.  After a few false starts on blogging in the past, we arrived here to tell our story, and if we can help someone else in a similar situation, we’ll be pleased.

This is our little corner of the world that we decided to create for our own thoughts of death – which is coming more and more quickly.  It’s also a corner of the world that we want you to share if you have something to add.  …and, if you are dying, there’s little doubt that you have much to offer.”

NOTE: THE MOUSE AND I WISH UPON WISH THAT THERE WAS A CHRONOLOGICAL LOGIC TO BLOGGING!!!!

In order to read this blog PROPERLY, as in MOST blogs, one starts allllllllllllllllllllllllllll the way back into archives to find the start point and has to read their way forward.

Here is the link to the first blog post at Die With Dignity: http://diewithdignity.wordpress.com/2012/01/

If you think you want to visit this story, and we highly, HIGHLY recommend this, please BEGIN with JANUARY 2012.

There aren’t too many total posts. The blog begins January 2012 and runs to October 2012. It reads quickly because these folks are actively in the progressive act of dying and they don’t have much time, they are extremely ill, and in an inordinate amount of physical pain and suffering. But the words you read tell you they are of the attitude and spirit that somehow transcends all of that unpleasantness to allow you to never know just HOW much it hurts, all you see in those words is joy and gratitude for the blessings they have had in their life as they take time to reflect back on those things in their final days.

So, if you had a crystal ball, or Alladin’s Lamp, and you could know, would you want to know how your days were going to end? This is just a snack…some ‘to go’ food for thought to take with you.

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Thanks again all for stopping in to visit today! See you again next time!

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CJ  and Morguie

©2013, C.S. Thompson.

  Here is the link to “Beyond Treason”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViUtjA1ImQc

10 Responses to “NO U – TURNS”

  1. I don’t think I could read it CJ. I follow another blog written by a man who is dying and the sole purpose of his blog is for others to send him messages to pass on to their loved ones with the occasional introspective post from him as well.
    I don’t know how I would cope to be in the position of knowing that I am dying. I guess that’s why I try to ‘live’ each day to the best of my ability.

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  2. I don’t think I would like to know when or how I’m gonna die.
    Recently I saw a person close to me “waste away” in matter of 2 weeks.
    He had prostate cancer, he went through chemo and full treatment 2 years ago, had a “full” recovery and exactly a month ago while we were harvesting corn, he said he was feeling very tired. Went to the doctor that week, 4 days later he got the results of his test, cancer again. It was a fast deterioration, he died 1 week ago. Nobody told him he was going to die, his wife knew, we all knew but nobody told him. I wonder if he would have liked to know.
    He was a good man and I’m glad he didn’t suffer much.
    I don’t think I have it on me to write about sad things, I usually swipe sad under the carpet.

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    • So sorry about your friend, Doggy. That’s really terrible. Do you think he knew, but he was hoping to beat it, because he’d done that before? (Yes, the doctor would have explained that this time it was end-stage, btw) Perhaps he did know, but didn’t want to show it? No one wants to have their loved ones worrying and crying and fearful. At either rate, I would leave you with this thought, in hopes that it will give you and his family a little peace—I hope it is of some comfort— since he went out quickly, after getting the results, I believe he may have been at peace with it, knew that this was the end, and was ready. When someone is ready, is at peace with all those things that we grapple with inside, is okay with his family and friends and knows he’s leaving with his business in order, they give up the good fight.
      If he were struggling with his life issues and worries, he would have gone down swinging. He would have lingered and stayed with much pain and suffering.
      He knew he was ready. It is so sad for those left behind, though. No one wants to see such a terrible ravage happen to someone they hold dear; none wants that person to leave…
      The bottom line of it all: Carpe diem…squeeze every bit of joy you can from the ordinary little things and invest much in the folks you hold dear. AND READ LOTS of HAPPY STUFF!!! We do. We have to! It’s too hard to read the heavy stuff. Watch funny movies, too.
      Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts on this…again, our sympathy, truly most sincere.
      CJ and Morguie

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  3. What a sad, sad story. I hope they at least achieved the dignity in death they wanted.
    I think Julia achieved that dignity. She lived as norrnal a life as possible despite the prognosis, never moaned or questioned “why me”, accepted the palliative care offered so she could still function within the family and ensured each visitor went away uplifted.
    If I had the crystal ball, I’d like to know when I’m going so that I could be sure to leave message of love for all the family before sitting in my chair for a last cigarette and a dark chocolate finger and going with a smile on my face knowing I’ve lived a good life.Joining Ju will be a pleasure.
    xxx Huge Hugs to you and Mousie xxx

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