Tangled Webs of Life: Thoughts

The Mouse and I have been thinking over the past few days about the news stories in our local paper and on the set, discussing and debating about why it is necessarily so that it seems the world is on its way to hell in a fiery hand-basket. At least, one might wonder, here in our neck of the woods. It is disturbing and we are hanging our heads in shame for what has become of the old hometown.

We can only guess that so much interpersonal violence, abuse of children, beatings of babies, and general thuggery and crime is a sort reaction people are exhibiting in an expression of desperation that to us literally screams, “HELP US! WE ARE OUT OF CONTROL BECAUSE WE DON’T KNOW HOW TO COPE WITH LIFE!” Or we could be guessing the world has gone to hell. A cry for help?

Senseless loss of life to drugs and alcohol, either by someone else’s bad behavior or one’s self. Suicides.

Homicides. Killings of wife and kids. Killings of parents. Killings of total strangers for no clear reason.

AND THEN…we DO have our own parts to play in the lives of those around us, as well. Being ACCOUNTABLE has much to do with the solutions we can find for a lot of today’s problems. It seems we can get off with a “pass” more and more though, with our bad behavior by pointing to someone or something else as a causative factor that contributed to some deficiency in our failure to do right.  MOST of us are smarter than this, and most tend to be better as humans.

Some will run with any defense you can make for them, never ever being made to account or to learn. No justice in that.

It is reprehensible to take your wicked and angry frustrations out on any innocent person, most especially a tiny baby or child…an elderly, disabled, or otherwise defenseless person or creature.

It can be further intensified by the use of alcohol or drugs.

The more complicated the social environs become, it seems less equipped the humans are to be able to cope and accept the stress and change that go with it. So many people lack basic personal coping skills, many beginning to manifest the problem in childhood as bullies or delinquents. Many, many have watched parents medicate and intoxicate themselves since they were small. Together with other exhibits of poor coping in times of frustration, kids turn to violence and drugs because it seems the natural thing to do about easing their pain. It doesn’t help when it seems no one cares much about you generally, either. That atmosphere sets people up for disaster.

Apathy, neglect, abuse, and crime. What a piss-poor setting for a kid to evolve into a decent person.

A purple ribbon to promote awareness of Interp...

A purple ribbon to promote awareness of Interpersonal Violence and Abuse Prevention. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

More and more people seem to come into this world lacking a decent set of parents or even a half decent human being for a parent. Sadly, a child NEVER asks to be placed here.

We’ve heard the “it takes a village to raise a child” saying before.  We really don’t know, looking at the course things seem to be taking around here. We think some are tired of trying or are afraid of getting involved.

We do know, that all those who are defenseless to act for their own safety and well-being need for us to do the right thing when we suspect any kind of abuse, mistreatment, or neglect. There is always a way to remain anonymous, so there is no excuse to allow for it to continue.

We have decided to start on a “Links” page to list a bunch of Helpful Resources we hope to have up very soon that we will make available for hotlines, books, websites, all sorts of stuff to become a kinder, gentler, and softer place to land. Maybe we can actually be helpful. We will have achieved the goal of our blog then.guardianangelwithchild

[365 Toy Project: 050/365] The Humans Are Dead

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10 Responses to “Tangled Webs of Life: Thoughts”

  1. I think children are being raised without being taught that every action they take has a consequence. They are not being taught personal responsibility.
    I remember being so angry one day when I heard a lady on talk back radio saying that because she was bullied in school, she is too afraid to leave her home, drive a car or maintain a relationship. I was angry a)that she was bullied but also b) that she was allowing this to rule her life and blaming it for how she was now.
    You (and I) have had some serious stuff go on in our lives but living a half life and blaming others doesn’t do us any favours.
    Okay, now I’m going to get off my soapbox and let you have your blog back. lol
    Hugs Miss CJ.


    • I believe that the era of being “unaccountable” started with that late 1970s Phil Donahue show…he started introducing so-called new-age psychs and thinkers who attempted to excuse a person’s unacceptable behavior by postulating that it had a definite subconscious or other predetermined factor (traumatic birth experience!) which created some emotional deficiency, etc. This I believe lay the groundwork and paved the way for all sorts of ‘damaged inner child’ theorists and the like to come in and create even more reasons, to make allowances for irresponsibility…and push to curtail any disciplinary actions harsher than the ‘time-out’… including the movement to banish the good old-fashioned, well-intentioned, formerly effective swat on the butt. But much worse a culprit in this picture is the problem of having children without the benefit of a two-parent home. The social acceptance of single motherhood has almost turned to encouragement, specifically concerning treating FATHERS as if they are merely “optional” components and therefore insignificant. It is a very sad statement which has a multitude of its own negative results, all of which are real.


      • Whilst I think a lot of those contribute to the state that we find our youth and young people in today, I don’t think they are solely to blame.
        I was a single parent for some time due to a silly mistake. We all make them. I agree that it appears today that fathers don’t need to be included but I don’t think that is true for every case.
        As to issues of the past, I agree that some of these things that damage children can impact on their life. However I am a firm believer that passing the buck is not an option. We are the architects of our own lives. We are dealt a hand and it all depends on how we play that hand as to how life will turn out.


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    • You are so right. Apparently, it beats having to look within oneself for the root of the problem and having to do any work to find any possible solutions, as well. Pass it up or pass it on, as long as it “ain’t on me” seems to be the way with too many folks and it really must change.


  3. Far too many people refuse to accept responsibility for their actions and you’re right they love to play the blame game.
    I’ve seen kids from the wrong side of town with deadbeat parents go on to be successful parents because they made a choice not to repeat old mistakes. I’ve seen kids from wealthy households with loving parents take the drugs route because they want some excitement. We all have choices to make, we can and should strive for what we want and to give our kids a good start.
    Education is a great help and the Government should allocate big funds to Social Services and to education to get children out of abusive environments and into smaller classes in schools. We owe it to our children to give them the best possible start.
    Lets start looking after each other and looking after the planet so that future generations don’t see what we witness daily. Lets stop making ourselves the number one priority unless we’re escaping abuse ourselves.
    Your idea of help lines etc is brilliant C.J.
    XXX Massive Hugs to you and Mousie xxx


    • I love the passionate response, we think alike! So whatever that quiz of yours revealed must have shown that “S” was the key to our common quality! Massivest Hugs Ever, XXX CJ XXX


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