GRIEF: Will It Always Hurt So Much?
So many who mourn the loss of a loved one feel a certain concern about the duration of time the pain of this grief actually lasts. How many grains of sand lie upon the beach?
Depending on your personal relationship with the special person you are grieving, it is of our most humble and extremely limited personal experience, that the Mouse and I have decided to give our own simple answer today.
**Relationship Strength: Always Hurt?
VERY CLOSELY BONDED TO DECEASED YES
DURATION OF HURT OR LONGING? FOREVER
EASE OR LESSEN OVER TIME? Definite Maybe
HOW MUCH TIME? unknown
All others, please adjust according to degree of attachment. These are not scientific or tested estimates…results will vary among each individual, as each loss is unique, and around each loss WE have unique needs which are left void due to the loss. We also believe the further removed or lesser attached you are, the less likely the pain and duration, if any, to this loss. This is based on the degree of your investment, that degree to which you will be affected by the loss.
**Good rule of thumb to remember:
No investment made = No loss actualized
No amount of money, fortune, or fame will change your result or ease the suffering of grief. No bargaining, begging, or level of ignoring it will change the core of it, either.
We wish to apologize about any vagueness or lack of clarity. That’s the best we can offer. We hope this can be helpful in some small way. Perhaps it helps MORE just to know that there are so many people just like YOU, who grieve, and cry in longing for a much-loved and sorely missed cherished one. We wish comfort for you.
We would like to end the thought of our post today with a video we had bookmarked and re-discovered in our junk folders on the home pc. Certainly not “junk” by any stretch. Just a brother’s reflection and true emotion, as he speaks of the loss of his cherished brothers, who together all happened to become worldwide music legends, beloved by millions, CJ notwithstanding.
Peace and comforting hugs to our friends, one and all.
xxx CJ and Morguie xxx
©2014, C.S. Thompson.