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A Super-Important Message For Our Readers

Posted in American Military, Death, Depression, Friendship, Gratitude, Grief, Heroism, History, Holidays, Hope, IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT, Legacy, Life, Loss, Memorialization, Patriotism, Personal Opinion, Politics, Readers Opinion, Remembrance, Soldiers, Tragic death, Veterans, WAR with tags , on November 12, 2014 by Morguie






W A R N I N G:  Mild expletives and strong tone are contained in this very important message.


Shit is about to get real in here today, and we NEVER, EVER plan to reiterate this message or revisit the reasons we felt forced to post it.


Message To ALL of Our Readers:

After much thought and consideration, we have decided to address a situation which came about, by way of a comment from a reader.  The situation: a reader decided to take a considerable amount of time to make a comment which we considered to be very strongly inflammatory, abrasive, and likely to offend others who come here… in light of the fact this person chose Veteran’s Day and Remembrance Day to make this rant, we have decided to file this particular visitor under the “Flamethrower” tab in our Rolodex. The comment has been placed HERE and not marked “approved” in its original location.

Why do we even give him the attention he obviously craves, you ask? 

We are giving him a center-stage role here today to make something of an example, to others who may be able to learn more about US, what this blog is about, who runs shit here, and what and who will or won’t be welcome or tolerated here. We really haven’t had to worry about doing this before now.  We feel now is the time to make a CLEAR statement. Crystal.Clear.


 Otherwise, known as the Rules of Engagement; we reserve the right to make them, break them, stretch them, or jettison them. W E.


before we entertain this comment and give the stage up to ‘mytiturk’, we first want to be sure our loyal, gentle, and extremely appreciated followers and readers know this:

Morguie and I absolutely adore all of you. We are truly honored to be thought of as worthy of your time, your friendship, your interest, and the love you have shown us. Without you, this effort and our hope to make this blog into something unique and personally rewarding would have been a failure for us in more ways than one.

An epic failure.

We might even go as far as to say YOU may have possibly even saved our lives…it’s not quite THAT dramatic, perhaps…unless you consider the dark days we were living in the beginning of this venture. Depression over the need to ‘re-invent’ ourselves after an office closure forced a lay-off which had turned into ‘long-term’ unemployment (in spite of having a wide array of skills, experience, achievement, certifications, licenses, and education). Never having had to worry about being out of work was something we never thought we’d experience. Always worked; found we were excellent at managing to adapt and learning new, valuable skills along a life-time of great work environments, career fields, etc.  This blog pretty much saved us from the worst depths of despair, in short. We always knew we could put words together — been told over the years by a great many that we had a real talent for putting pen to paper.  We didn’t know. What we did know was that we had to find a way, some way, to get out of the pit of doom and hopelessness we were in. With the encouragement and support of only those closest to us, we jumped in with both feet.*      * CJ had Morguie in a pocket so HIS feet didn’t count 😉

What was once just a pipe-dream — to someday earn a bit of success or feel some personal accomplishment— has been to become a real author or writer. The silly little dream became a goal and now, a reality…almost entirely thanks to YOU.  Our plan was to step off in this arena and build connections and confidence, so that we might be able to gain the attention of someone who thought we deserved a shot at trying our hand in an even bigger arena: somewhere in a bona fide, recognized place and PUBLISHED place. We can proudly say, that has happened* — it would never have happened without this blog and more importantly, YOU.    *NOTE: CJ has been a monthly featured contributing author of her own column in “Mortuary Management” magazine, since December 2013…with over 10,000 subscribers, the magazine is a trade publication of distinction for 100 years, for funeral professionals, allied trades and service providers of death care related products and

You see, this blog was born at a time of great instability and personal fragility. If not for our friends here, it wouldn’t have gotten off the ground, much less enjoyed well over 500 followers and over 10,000 hits in the 18 months it has been here. To us, this is something we have become quite proud of. Many readers here are also bloggers…bloggers who have stats that make us pale in comparison…and accomplishments far beyond our own. Some are prolific book writers and published artists. We just want ALL of OUR CHERISHED FRIENDS to know we owe you so much..”thank you” doesn’t begin to express our gratitude and love for you.


NOW…we present the flamethrower, who, as we said, chose to make THIS comment on a post concerned with honoring our Veterans around the world. It doesn’t deserve a place on our blog, but at the same time, we want to show that we do indeed respect the fact that people are entitled to their personal opinions. We understand that we won’t always share the same feelings, beliefs, or ideas that others may have. We try never to step onto thin ice with subjects of deeply controversial issues…matters which pit people against each other.


1. That isn’t our objective. 2. It results in hostility, ill-will, and often leads to destructive, despicable behaviors. 3. It serves no valuable purpose. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:     WE RUN SHIT HERE. THIS IS OUR BABY, OUR CANDYSHOP, OUR “Thing.” WE don’t welcome anything or anyone who comes in here with the sole purpose of pissing people off or otherwise causing a load of hate and discontent.


If anyone finds our policy in contradiction to their liking or intentions within our site, we respectfully suggest that this is not the place to visit. There are literally MILLIONS of other websites and bloggers in cyberspace…there are sure to be much more suitable to your tastes and pleasure.



Preface: The comment may have been acceptable to us IF the tone (actually the OMISSION of them would have been far better)  of the very last 3 sentences of the rant hadn’t felt to us like an attempt to bully, intimidate, or lambaste  us for our support and observance of what is to us, a special day honoring our military for the work they do to free other people from the oppression and tyranny of evil governments and the despots ruling them. THE LAST 3 SENTENCES were ugly and intended to cause a shit-storm, in our opinion. (Marked with * *)

WAR IS A PART OF Real life . We make no excuses for why they happen. Our soldiers have nothing to do with causing them as they carry out orders and do battle as directed. Yes, unfortunately all kinds of innocent people are killed and it is a horrible tragedy. People who proclaim them only to be about taking resources away for the spoils are obviously in sore need of a REAL education of the world’s history.

‘mytiturk’ spews his vitriol safely , THANKS to others who had the balls to defend that right and even give up their lives so the a-hole coward wouldn’t have to live in fear for speaking his piece. That is the extent of our response to this person’s comment. (BTW, The post he was directing comment to wasn’t our own, it was a re-blogged piece from another writer)

So to be clear:  THIS IS OUR POLICY over OUR BLOG.

RULES: We reserve the right to make them, break them, stretch them, or jettison them. WE. Period. Thank you. We also will not tolerate any commentary which serves to create any further vitriol in this particular post. If there is anybody wishing to blast us, you are wasting your energy — find something to read at some other site. It is silly to hang around here for such a reason. It makes you look like an asshole, too.

 ‘mytiturk’ says:

‘The very statement that soldiers die to protect something like “our freedoms” assumes that the majority of wars entered into by a country are simply protecting the freedoms of its people. In fact, the vast majority of wars are about securing power or precious resources for the country that wages them. The individual soldier’s pathos and heroism (never in doubt) is used to silence those who oppose war. “To oppose war is to diminish the goodness and sacrifice of the hero. How can you do that?” The planet cannot sustain the insane scale of world resources allocated to killing. The more immoral, greedy wars we wage, the more we need to keep these “freedoms” illusions in the front of the population’s “consciousness.” It shuts up the person who sees through the hypocrisy and shuts down dialogue. The tragedy is in the incredible, diverse sufferings of those good, simple people who wage these immoral foreign wars and die or return with untold physical and emotional wounds – and in the far larger numbers of the “enemy” who are harmed. One example: 500 000 Iraqi children died due to the sanctions applied during the decade of “peace” between the two Iraq wars – sanctions that destroyed Iraq’s ability to purify its water supply and prevented medicines from entering that country. If, somehow, there were a light at the end of this immoral tunnel, a Malthusian might justify it on selfish grounds. The irony is that militarization is not going to have any long term winners. **So spare me the glorification of war at every major sports event and the callous exploitation of our own soldiers’ to continue the race to oblivion. Remembrance Day itself is being used to feed the naive patriotism that feeds the profitable War Machine. If we truly loved our soldiers we would not treat them as a renewable, disposable commodity and churn them out like car parts.’


So to the Flamethrowers, we invite you to our furnace, or you can just get OUT. Trolls are not welcome here. 

Our Love, to the rest of you fine people…  CJ and Mousie

©2014, C.S.Thompson.

The mini incinerator


Posted in Funeral Service Professional, Gratitude, Grief, Inspiration, Life, Memorialization, Mortuary Management magazine, Readers Opinion, Thought For Today on January 3, 2014 by Morguie



We begin 2014 with the excitement of another new year ahead…that’s the way we try to approach every new year. A clean slate.  Time to renew life, or live it, or something. Do something with our life, differently, perhaps…it seems we are starting off right so far.

 Morguie is pretty sure C J is really a cat, underneath that human exterior. A cat going into her 5th or 10th life…sheesh!  And C J is pretty sure Morguie has been the little cracker thief around here, at night…catseyesmousecringe

The mouse was trying to say that C J always manages to land on her feet, even at the last minute…and she is good at re-inventing herself, when times demand that of her. C J says she agrees with that, but that it seems to get a little harder each time. When it’s rewarding, of course, it’s a challenge happily met.

 Mousie says he can certainly agree with that: especially when that challenge involves  big, fat, rewarding crackers!


It was a little ego booster to open the mailbox yesterday, finding the January issue of Mortuary Management — C J’s second article since becoming a ‘regular monthly contributor’ across two pages!  She had struggled a lot with the piece…a bit of gnashing of teeth, personal hair-pulling, some items found themselves flying about before hitting the floor, and yes, the shredder worked overtime grinding unacceptable drafted copy into confetti. A few un-lady like words slipped out, coffee spilled, and days turned into nights…well, you all know how it gets when you endeavor to churn out something readable and fantastic, only to see or believe that it’s neither, after all your effort…


Mortuary Management --- A Funeral Trade Journal in publication since 1914

Mortuary Management — A Funeral Trade Journal in publication since 1914

C J finally turned in the piece, apprehensive that it was less than worthy of pressing. In her mind, what she submitted needed to be better than ‘good enough.’ And, at this very moment, she still feels that it isn’t “her” and it isn’t her best. She writes in a different ‘voice’ in the magazine. Not the easy-going free-flowing style as this comfortable blog affords. If the two writing styles could be compared to shoes: the blog is a pair of Hush Puppies slip-ons; the magazine is a brand-new pair of 4-inch patent stillettos, one size too small.

 After all, kids — this is for a magazine that she first discovered in — a funeral home restroom — on the bathroom reader rack, as she occasioned to pop in and wash her hands one day. She picked the beautifully covered mag up and flipped the pages, marveling at the interesting stuff she saw. She wasn’t in the business at that point, mind you. She was a first-call attendant for a transport company, a ‘body mover.’ A veritable newbie, getting her first look inside the profession, C J was just about to embark on her dream.

So, she decided to…stuff the magazine under her coat…and TAKE it!reaper

C J felt guilty. But she got over it.

She loved that magazine and read every single word of it…cover to cover. Over the years, she came to rely on it. She met the man who owned and published it. She went to him to ask for help when the state took money for exam registrations but didn’t offer the embalmer’s licensing exam when she finished mortuary college. That man, Mr. Ron Hast, became a friend and comrade. Without his help hundreds of students would have been left high and dry for who knows how long.  C J knew she was dealing with a ‘biggie’ in the funeral service profession. Of course, together they were victorious.

Her friend the publisher — he died in August 2013. C J hadn’t quite gotten up enough nerve to personally approach him about submitting something to print in his iconic publication. She mentioned this in her regrets as she wrote a tribute to him.

Much to her surprise and great joy, the magazine approached her. Her first piece debuted in the December edition. She wrote about the evolution of funeral transportation in modern America.

This could not have happened without her blog. C J started her blog in May 2013. Not sure anyone would want read what she had to say, she wrote anyway. She felt she had stories to share. She needed to find something to do with her time. C J was sinking into the abyss of despair; long-term unemployment with no end in sight, family members dealing with illness of the most serious kinds…writing pulled her out into the light and gave her a new purpose. It gave her a sense of renewal.


It is the readers to whom we owe our purposeful days of reading, researching, thinking, sharing, commenting, and caring. The over-due housework will attest to our time spent on new purpose. 😉


***SPECIAL GRATITUDE and ACKNOWLEDGMENT go to those VERY SPECIAL friends here that were so kind to help me with their thoughts and opinions about how they wanted to be remembered when they passed. The ‘survey’ was impromptu, and with just hours to spare, you were so very gracious to lend your personal thoughts and that was so incredibly appreciated.

Those thoughts shared about what to do with your own ashes, as well as some you may be safekeeping, were thoughtfully presented, in anonymity of course. The editor was great…he put it all together so nicely.

The article also spoke of our special friends, Bonnie and Butch Dean. They are hospice angels. Bonnie hand-makes beautiful keepsakes, Memory Bears, from loved ones’ clothing. She and Butch lost their son to cancer and this is their ministry, helping others through the grief of loss.***


Thank you ALL, for helping us to become purposeful and excited again for what may lie ahead. We appreciate the love and friendship and fellowship (followship, too) we have found here. We enjoy the treasures in each of your unique blogs, as well,  to those of you that write. To those who visit, we hope you’ll return, often. We hope all will eventually exchange ideas and thoughts about things here. We sure hope that our readers will look at the blogs we follow and discover the great stories of others, as we have.

Our world, our lives are much brighter merely because of YOU.

May 2014 Be Shiny For All,    ♥C J  and  MORGUIE♥

©2014, C.S. Thompson.

HELP!!! The Cat’s Out of The Bag!

Posted in Gratitude, Life, Memorialization, Readers Opinion, Remembrance on November 17, 2013 by Morguie





C J can’t work “PollDaddy” to save her life! ARGHHHH! And the Mouse? Forgettttabouttttt it!

C J is hoping that her kind readers will LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW to answer, PLEASE! She promises that this is not a scientific poll, none of her readers’ identities or information will be turned over to any entity, and that would include the N.S.A., no matter if the agents came to her door and skinned the little mouse or cut off one of his little tiny ears.  However, if they started to take a knife to his tail, she MIGHT start giving up names of folks who come by here and forget to leave an answer…it will take just a couple of  minutes.

WHY DO WE NEED YOUR HELP? Here’s the exciting stuff we have been keeping from you…

Thanks to all of you, in a large way, because without a readership, we really wouldn’t have continued…and without a blog, we couldn’t have been offered a very honorable, yet humbling opportunity to become a monthly contributing author for Mortuary Management magazine. It is a highly respected, iconic funeral service trade publication that has been in circulation since 1914!!!

We are trying to work on an article about being remembered. That’s it. So who better to tap for a real-world view? Why, YOU! Of course! Would you help? Please? And, we are unfortunately working on a really tight schedule since we just dreamt this informal survey up…


We thank you all!

#1—What, if any, legacy do you hope to leave for others?

#2—All religious beliefs aside, do you believe there is a certain amount of worth or purpose in a person’s existence or life’s work?

#3—Do you think it’s important to be remembered?

#4—Have you planned to be cremated? Earth burial? Other?

#5—IF you are cremated, what will be done with your ashes?

#6—Do you currently have a loved one’s ashes in your possession? Do you know what you plan to do with them?

Remember, this is just for us to formulate an idea of just how important, or not…it is that people feel remembered after they depart this life. It is personal, it should be thought provoking. It ought to give you pause. And no we will never turn this info into a science project because we love you and we appreciate you all. Without you we are toast nothing. Answer one or two, answer all. Whatever you want. We send you huge hugs for payment, in advance!

XX CJ and Morguie XX

©2013, C.S. Thompson.


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